Filed under: Sex, Ed?
We are all products of how we were raised and well how we were informed about life and how life comes to be formed. Last week as my daughter was getting ready for school some “facts-of-lifey” type of statement was raised. My husband answered, “You’ll learn that in Biology in 7th Grade.” I scowled at him and said to Tali, “You know Daddy’s a bit old school. He learned about the facts of life in the stone ages when it was taught like this:
CaveMan: Ummmm pretty cave woman. Me like.
Drag by hair. Boom Boom. We make baby. Me hunt.”
The facts of life. The End.
I assured her that I would do my best to give her a better talk than that when she wasn’t ready to hop on the school bus. Time passes. Fast forward to a day later as Tali sat doing her homework.
Tali: “What’s an X rated movie?”
Me: “Where did you hear about an x rated movie?”
After a small amount of prodding (that included nothing sharp): “Well, on the bus, Daniella said that when she walked in the hallway past her mother’s bedroom she was watching an x rated movie.”
Me: “Tali, maybe it wasn’t x-rated, maybe people were kissing, blah, blah, blah…”
So I start to explain the facts in a slightly more evolved manner than the caveman example. “When two people love….” Tali’s eyes are bursting over trying not to laugh. So I do the mature thing any mother would do trying to make her daughter feel comfortable about her body and sexuality and setting the tone for comfort with herself for years to come – I burst out laughing. Then she did too.
I asked her when she was discussing this moment with someone, say someone taking notes, in the years to come to please let her memory be kind. Of course Mommy wasn’t laughing at her, just well maybe a little at her – but mostly with her as she laughed at Mommy.
I wish I had had the benefit of this film to review prior to our talk. It certainly makes it all so understandable:
So see, my kids could certainly have done a lot worse when it comes to straightforward talk about the facts of life.
That’s it, short and sweet. The truth is I send my kids over to Humor-blogs.com for the facts of life.
Posted by: Lampsha (a/k/a G of Simply Said)
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